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The Sweet Spot of Surrender

Controlling by Letting Go

I am sure that I am not alone in feeling at times that ‘my life has taken on a life of its own’ – that is, realizing that how my time and energy is spent these days is not at all by complete choice on my part.  Circumstances beyond my control- most recently related to aging and dying parents- have added an array of bitter sweet emotions, responsibilities, and yes, STRESS.  It is that ‘outside-in’ stress created by circumstances beyond our control that can sometimes hit like a wrecking ball.   However, I realize that I am the one responsible for compounding that stress, by my own struggle and resentment about this point in life -although temporary- where I am not able to fully dedicate time and energy to the creative and expressive endeavors and service that I want and that I most enjoy.That struggle and resentment creates even more stress- ‘inside-out’ stress -that only I can control…by letting go.  And so, it is only in the sweet spot of surrender that I find solace. 

Surrender: Abandonment, cessation, and letting go of  fight or struggle.Are there circumstances where surrender can create more freedom for you?

  • When there are events or circumstances in your life where you find you are hanging on to the way you think things ‘should’ be, practice letting go of expectations and realize that this time is only temporary-as are all things- and that this time too, is part of your soul’s journey.
  • Navigate through unwelcome or unfamiliar territory with an open mind and heart. Allow yourself to fully feel, experience, and move through the array of emotions- anger, grief, surprise, sadness, confusion, resentment- without judgement- and be willing to accept, adapt, and let go.
  • Inject moments of activities and endeavors that feed your ‘want to’ desires and bring you joy, pleasure and inner satisfaction.
  • Consciously surround yourself with individuals who accept, understand, and support you for who you are and where you are in life’s circumstances.
  • Find meaning in the mundane. Examine and discover how you may be of service to others in ways that you never imagined, yet that service is important and meaningful.
  • Always do your best.  You may find that an uninvited set of responsibilities are not necessarily in alignment with your interests, gifts and talents.  Simply do the best you can, which may be a ‘different level of best’ every moment of every day.
  • Love and appreciate yourself…everyday.

The Assault of Excess – Reset Your Senses

The Assault of Excess - Reset Your Senses

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Nature’s Course Runs Deep

Bear with me here. I am feeling compelled to share yet another “body message” with some meaningful analogies personal growth and transformation. It all started with slippery steps and a fall. I landed hard on my upper right thigh with a bruise the size of a cantaloupe! (I have pretty large thighs!) Anyway,  as I have observed the healing process, I notice that my skin color is returning to normal or balance from the inside- out, to where now I just have a discolored ring around the “landing area”.
So I realized that this relates to the process of integrative wellness. In other words, “quick fixes” for discomfort -physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually- are like putting a band aid on the surface without allowing the deeper, inside-out healing to occur. It’s so easy to grab onto fad diets, energy drinks, busy-ness, withdrawal, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, and collecting stuff for the quick “feel better” affect rather than increasing awareness and working with the long lasting tools of a lifetime. Transformation starts deep – with meaningful choices and changes- one at a time. And yes, nature once again shows us how to return to balance…from the inside- out, lasting for the long haul.
The key is to know who you are, what you want, what you need, and what is true for you. Then go after it! This is where I have found the help of a coach or mentor paramount. Someone to guide and support you in ways that matter to you. That’s how long lasting lifestyle transformation occurs.

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3 Reasons Self-Health is NOT Selfish!

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“Moving Through Change”

We all know that the only thing in life that is certain IS CHANGE. So, how adaptive and willing are you to change? Follow me and your body in this fun video with your body “moving you through changes”. Get big and expansive, test your boundaries, let go, flow through and around obstacles, and find balance even when you move “outside the box”!

How “Rich” is Your Health Account?

span style=”color: #003469; font-size: 14px;”>Like many people, you most likely have a plan and a routine for saving money for future life events – like vacations, celebrations, home improvements and even retirement.   The habit of making  regular “deposits” into this account can help you feel more at ease about your ability to enjoy the future and the fruits of your labor.

How often are you making “deposits” into your personal health and resilience account?  Do you have the same habit of taking care of yourself now so you can have the health and energy to enjoy the very events you are saving money for?  All it takes is one major health crisis to send you into financial challenge, with deductibles, co-pays, and medications.  There are ways to fortify your overall health and resilience so you can enjoy the results of your saving habits.  Here is a list of positive lifestyle factors that increase resilience, decrease stress, retard aging, and contribute to a “rich health account”.

  • Happy marriage or satisfying long-term relationship
  • Job satisfaction
  • Feelings of personal happiness
  • Ability to laugh easily
  • Satisfactory sex life
  • Ability to make and keep close friends
  • Regular daily routine that includes movement, rest, good nutrition
  • Regular work routine
  • Taking at least one week’s vacation every year
  • Feeling in control of personal life
  • Ability to adapt to change
  • Enjoyable leisure time, satisfying hobbies
  • Ability to express feelings easily
  • Optimistic about the future
  • Feeling financially secure, living within means

How “rich and abundant” is your health account?

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Be Well,

Carol