Controlling by Letting Go
I am sure that I am not alone in feeling at times that ‘my life has taken on a life of its own’ – that is, realizing that how my time and energy is spent these days is not at all by complete choice on my part. Circumstances beyond my control- most recently related to aging and dying parents- have added an array of bitter sweet emotions, responsibilities, and yes, STRESS. It is that ‘outside-in’ stress created by circumstances beyond our control that can sometimes hit like a wrecking ball. However, I realize that I am the one responsible for compounding that stress, by my own struggle and resentment about this point in life -although temporary- where I am not able to fully dedicate time and energy to the creative and expressive endeavors and service that I want and that I most enjoy.That struggle and resentment creates even more stress- ‘inside-out’ stress -that only I can control…by letting go. And so, it is only in the sweet spot of surrender that I find solace.
Surrender: Abandonment, cessation, and letting go of fight or struggle.Are there circumstances where surrender can create more freedom for you?
- When there are events or circumstances in your life where you find you are hanging on to the way you think things ‘should’ be, practice letting go of expectations and realize that this time is only temporary-as are all things- and that this time too, is part of your soul’s journey.
- Navigate through unwelcome or unfamiliar territory with an open mind and heart. Allow yourself to fully feel, experience, and move through the array of emotions- anger, grief, surprise, sadness, confusion, resentment- without judgement- and be willing to accept, adapt, and let go.
- Inject moments of activities and endeavors that feed your ‘want to’ desires and bring you joy, pleasure and inner satisfaction.
- Consciously surround yourself with individuals who accept, understand, and support you for who you are and where you are in life’s circumstances.
- Find meaning in the mundane. Examine and discover how you may be of service to others in ways that you never imagined, yet that service is important and meaningful.
- Always do your best. You may find that an uninvited set of responsibilities are not necessarily in alignment with your interests, gifts and talents. Simply do the best you can, which may be a ‘different level of best’ every moment of every day.
- Love and appreciate yourself…everyday.